Friday, November 30, 2007

You're Already Gay, Why Ruin it by Getting Married?

I love gayness. I also love marriage. However, to combine them would ruin both.

Let me back up off my initial statement a little bit. I nearly love gayness. Life is dull, so I am thankful for people that lisp and swish and whose mysterious and often ambiguous gender serves as fodder for a guessing game to pass the time at airports. Yes, I know many gay people project no telltale mannerisms. I know there are gay men that read, or pretend to read, the sports section. I know there are gay women who shave their armpits. I do not love these gay people. They make not the smallest effort to entertain me, and I, in return, find them as tiresome as normal people.

I used to love gay people more than I do now. The turning point came on a night when, to demonstrate my liberality, I attended a "gay" party. I chuckled when informed that I possessed a bubble butt. I laughed when someone asked if they could use my behind for a table. But when instructed to "get [my] ass in that cake, bitch!", I demurred. Thus did my love affair with gayness revert to more prosaic dimensions. For I knew that one drunk and rude homosexual spoke for all gay people everywhere.

I am married, therefore, like all married people, I love marriage. This is true. Ask any married person and they will confirm this, for they know there is no upside to saying otherwise. If they hesitate, there is a good chance that they will not be married for much longer.

Frankly, I'm not sure why the gay people are so eager to get their hands on the institution of marriage. They seem to have a pretty sweet set up without it--the men in particular. Possessed of all the most desirable of female qualities such as a strong fashion sense, an acute emotional intelligence and a highly developed appreciation for musical theater, they retain only one purely male trait: the desire to have sex at every waking moment. And since both partners have insatiable sexual appetites, fully 100% of the disagreements that would originate with the male in a heterosexual relationship never materialize. Bonus: sex with men outside the relationship is encouraged!

This is true of all gay male relationships.

I find it a bit harder to make a similar case that the typical lesbian relationship attains some ideal. Lesbians--and I mean ALL lesbians--display a set of male traits that I know from personal experience to be overrated. What's so great about being mechanically inclined if people are constantly roping you into fixing things? And while being emotionally inaccessible seems to have advantages--such as providing ample security for my fragile ego without lessening the warmth that my wife and children feel for me--it's hard to be sure when they speak to me so seldom. Beyond such male characteristics, lesbianism seems to be denoted by an over-emphasis on cuddling, ambivalence toward housekeeping, and an above average predilection for cats... I think. But I admit, I don't really know because I am confused by lesbians. They show so little enthusiasm for making themselves attractive to me.

But quibbling aside, it is clear that the gay couples are happy together. Why would they want to throw it all away by getting married? Don't they know not to mess with a winning streak? But if you are determined to leap from the cliff of swingledom against all better judgment, I will arm you with a few frayed scraps of wisdom, though they will provide only cold comfort as you plummet to your doom.

First off, what kind of marriage are you looking for? God marriage, or just the kind that begins with tax breaks and ends with alimony? If the former, I'm afraid I must disappoint. Because God--and by that I mean the REAL God, the one who busily smites and burns people, who drowns them or turns them to salt, and who won't love you if your foreskin is intact--that God, I'm sorry to say, finds what you do disgusting. He will give you nothing and you will like it.

His disdain is reflected in the policies of real churches, where the congregants have a sound and well-ingrained fear of being smitten, burned, drowned, solidified or in other manners fatally reproved. In such venues you can hardly expect to be welcomed, for the humble in the pews know that the Lord's avenging fire does not spare those in close proximity to its intended target. Thus the only denominations that will provide the service you seek are a small handful that have departed from His true path, though they still maintain the trappings of piety. Of these, only the United Church of Christ has proven willing to commit metaphysical suicide by offering you the genuine sacrament. There are other denominations ostensibly friendly to your absurd demands--notably the Unitarians, who, like you, will do anything, and every episcopalian parish between Vermont and Maryland. These churches are so overrun by queers that the Eucharist procession is indistinguishable from a Castro Pride Day parade. Yet they will only offer you what they cagily term a "covenanted relationship," which is like the faux-personal response you get when you write a fawning letter to Brad Pitt, only the fake signature is God's and are you happy now? then put your money on the plate.

For the devout sheep that graze in the rest of our nation's houses of worship, it pains me to say that you ask too much if you wish them to extend their Christian mercies so far as to willingly accompany you as you swish towards certain damnation. You cannot hope they will share in your joy as you solemnly exchange matching cock rings. And you certainly cannot expect that they will join you, figuratively and literally, in the orgiastic carnal celebration that will follow. If daily news reports are to be believed, these are all privileges reserved for their ministers and prelates alone.

And really, aren't you being unfair? After all, churches are merely Sunday breakfast clubs for the superstitious, each constructed around its own peculiar fetishes. Examples of utterly random notions as the basis for eternal salvation abound. Some believe that any ancestors you don't know about are in hell, until you find out about them, at which time they get paroled. Others believe that prayer is the only acceptable treatment for gangrene. And of course others--well, pretty much all of them--believe that boy-on-boy or girl-on-girl action is a deal breaker. They can't change their minds without ceasing to be the holy and ludicrous thing they are. And if you have given up work and sleep and dedicated your life to changing your church's creed so that you can walk down the aisle, I must break this unpleasant news: you're even more screwed up then they are.

Which brings me to the question of civil unions. Many homosexuals have come to terms with the fact that God will never love them, and that they will soon be subjected to infinite suffering for eternity. In reaction, they are looking to get a piece of the pie so big and delicious in this lifetime that it will make up for what is to come after.

So, should gay couples have access to the same civil rights and privileges as heterosexual couples? Should they get the same tax breaks? The same rights of inheritance? The same rights of hospital attendance in the event that one partner is gravely ill? Thankfully, unlike the thorny issue of matrimony in God's sight, the answer to this question is plain.

Absolutely not.

Look, you, my gay friend, have made the decision--yes, the decision--to be different. You certainly have never hesitated to accept all the perks that came in tow. The special recognition in high school. The free time that you enjoy while the rest of us attend to the parents and siblings that do not refuse to speak to us. The exalted sense you get from being in such an exclusive club. That you would now insist on also reaping the benefits reserved as recompense for those of us that labor under the dull yoke of normalcy seems to me distastefully opportunistic. There is a limited amount of money available to be distributed as tax breaks. More for you means less for me, and I'm not prepared to make that sacrifice. At least not unless you are willing to share some of the color and excitement of your lifestyle with me.

Did I mention I have a bubble butt?

5 comments:

pilka said...

normally, I do not respond to such ignorant homophobia. But in this case, for the gay friends I have who deal with the incessant hate & typecasting, I cannot stay silent.

You enjoy the stereotypes because they are more obvious manifestations of the "other" and that makes you feel superior: the closer a gay person is to your ideal of what it is to be normal---you & your buddies--the more uncomfortable you become.

Would you judge all African-Americans, Mexicans, or any other group outside your own based on the behaviour of one individual? Or two? Or even three?

Are you that ignorant to presume that all the information that can be gleaned about in an entire group is contained in one drunken party where YOU chose to participate in?

After all, you wanted the freaks who entertain you, but when the table was turned you couldn't handle it.

Honestly, you're pitiful: you paint lesbians & gay men in such a way that demonstrates how little contact you've had with them.

Then again, you've never been interested in knowing gay people, only making fun of them.

You engage in one of the more pernicious forms of racism: gawking at the "exotic".

You've fetishised a group at the expense of informing yourself about them, as all racists do.

Gay people are no more real to you than Santa Claus, only as you put "fodder for a guessing game to pass the time at airports."

They are not people, human, to you.

You prefer being the voyeur, leering satisfying the basest of your impulses in pointing the finger & mocking because YOU DON'T KNOW HOW TO MAKE YOUR OWN LIFE EXCITING.

So check yourself & quit pretending that you actually know enough to say anything about gays.

Gay men can't be happy in a stable relationship & therefore this is a basis for them not having the right to marry?


If that were the litmus test, well then the percentage of heterosexual men allowed to be married would be pretty damn low!


Two of my closest friends are gay & have been together for a decade--better than a whole lot of str8 marriages these days.

On the marriage/civil union issue--regardless of your opinion, this is a SECULAR government, not to be swayed by RELIGIOUS DOGMA.

Those who crafted the Constitution were careful to exclude RELIGION as the basis of basis of law.

Therefore, marriage can exist OUTSIDE the context of "church".

Besides, who are you to circumscribe the lives of others by determining whom they should love & the rights they should have?
Especially those whom you despise?
On what basis?

Your blatant dismissal of what is a universal right, for people who love each other to be permitted to see each other in the hospital shows depth of how inhumane you are.

I bet words like "justice", "human rights" "plurality" mean absolutely nothing outside of your own limited circle.

It is people like YOU who perpetrate genocide and ethnic cleansing, bully anyone who is not like you, conduct such horrors as Abu Ghraib all the while laughing as you swill your beer.

People like you make me ashamed to say I'm straight.

Oh and one last point, NO ONE exists to "make themselves attractive" to you!

Being the man DOES NOT accord you the status as center of the universe.
Far from it.

Mark Lazen said...

You are right. I am ashamed.

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